Why do we harbor negative and self limiting thoughts? It's the simple internalization of negative feedback from various sources. Parents, other adults, media, peers and so forth. The truth of the matter, the genesis isn't as important as the present. I recommend that instead of focusing on how, focus on fixing it. That is what you really have control over.
"The more anger towards your past you carry, the less capable you are of love in the present" ...Barbara DeAngelis.
Anger keeps us tied to the past. Anger keeps us blaming and in a state where we can't love ourselves, not to mention others. How does one simply 'let go' of anger? I think it is a process of acceptance--mostly, accepting ourselves. It's deciding that no matter the circumstances, we are still worthy and worth loving. We tend to define ourselves by circumstances, events, other people's perceptions. We become blind to other actualities.
Take an inventory of yourself. Write down all of your positive qualities. If you're struggling to see them, ask a trusted to friend to help you.
Once you come up with your list, ask yourself what have you done to nurture those qualities. You see, we spend an inordinate amount of time nurturing things that don't make us feel good about ourselves. For example, overeating, not exercising, negative self talk, poor sleep quality and the list goes on.
If you're not actualizing the positive qualities, chances are you over engaging in negative, self limiting behaviors.
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